Mother Of The Bride Planning Process

Your daughter or son is getting married. You are flooded with emotion. To help you out we interviewed Debbie Bernheim. She is mom to blog super star Jenny Bernheim, who is gettting married. Debbie was the perfect person to talk to about being the mother of the bride.  Debbie spoke with us about everything from shoes to tears.

How far in advance did you start looking for your MOB dress?

Jenny got engaged 6 months prior to her wedding, which for some seems like no time at all.  But I felt like it gave me ample amount time to find a suitable mother-of-the-bride gown. I wonder what it would have been like if she had a longer engagement.  I probably would have looked around a lot more and still would have landed with the same dress.

What was your style when it came to accessorizing?

I have a more classic and conservative style; I would say traditional with a little twist. I am not 30 anymore, but I still like to be fashionable, even for my age, to fit in.

Did you go with your daughter to find her dress?

We went out twice locally in West Hollywood. We brought Jenny’s maid of honor, and I remember that moment when I saw Jenny trying on a gown, it was so surreal; I couldn’t believe that my daughter was getting married.  She looked so beautiful in almost everything she tried on. In the end, we ended up finding a stunning gown during our trip to New York.

What advice would you give to other MOB’s?

Trust the bride, and follow her lead. I had complete trust in Jenny and Freddy, so I did not feel the need to impose. When I was asked to help, I was there to stay calm and be in the moment. Respect your daughter’s boundaries and her fiancés, don’t take it personally, and offer your assistance. It is their big day, and allow them to have their dreams come true.

What are the best qualities that a MOB could have during the wedding planning process?

I cannot stress enough the importance of communication with one another.  Remember, you can work through everything, so do not hold back, say how you feel.  This is the last time you will get to be a mother before your daughter is a wife.  Enjoy every minute.  Be open and accepting.  And don’t forget to enjoy!